Cooper and Grace

Berry blogged on Jordan's recent experiences (The Pain of the Longview)about being hurt by some pretty close folks. He mentioned Scriptural accounts of poo-poo people (Boneheads) that God used to worked in David's life.

i've been struggling with this lately. last week we were threatened with a lawsuit from the boss of a couple in our local family. imagine recieving a call at 11pm that says someone you have never met is threatening a civil suit against you, your wife and your congregation. imagine knowing the only contact this man has with you is only through the words of family that you are trying to help. imagine knowing the only information about you comes from the lips of those you have been entrusted to care for and that this information, for the threat of a civil suit to be an option, had to be false.
here's my struggle. i know bad things happen. i know crap happens in the church. family can be a crappy place. i know God works in adversity. i know that he is at work in the midst of everything, good and bad, to somehow bring honor to himself. but i wonder, is there not a time that lines need to be drawn. isn't there a place in relationship where healthy boundaries need to be set?
i've since had to do this with these particular family members. the boundary is set until the dealings they have with the man i've never met are finished. would it be right to keep myself in front of a train if i have the capacity to step off the track or divert the course of the train from plowing through my house?